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Five things Resilient Leaders Don’t Do

We all know how important is to be a resilient leader.  These leaders have the ability to adapt to their circumstances, not matter how challenging, and then thrive.  They not just bounce back, they overcome and get better with every single challenge they encounter.  There are many things they do to build resilience,  but there are also a few things they don’t do.   Here are five of the things resilient leaders don’t do.

Resilient leaders don’t spend a lot of time feeling sorry for themselves

We experience highs and lows.. all the time. Some periods are pretty bleak, and it is ok to mourn and be sad…. But it is not ok to live in that state for a long time. Individuals that lack resilience tend to be in victim mode most of the time. They tend to think that their problems are more significant than everyone else’s. They seem to believe that the world isn’t fair, and they have a hard time trying to be grateful for anything that might be going right for them. Life isn’t fair to them.

Resilient leaders don’t spend a lot of time blaming others for their misfortunes

You probably know the type. The person that is always blaming others and their circumstances for their bad choices. These individuals are usually angry at the world. It is tough for them to take responsibility and ownership of their own mistakes. They find ways and reasons to pass responsibility. They tend to blame their boss, coworkers, spouse, and weather; they even blame the food they ate. 

Resilient leaders don’t focus on things they cannot control

When presented with a challenge or a problem, they believe they need to single-handedly fix it; they have trouble asking for help and assessing their capabilities. When problems are too big for them to solve alone or aren’t their problem to solve, they tend to start assigning blame. They spend a lot of time fixing problems that aren’t theirs to fix, or cannot be fixed by one person, or it is not the right time to fix them. They want to control everything, so people see them as “control freaks.” Some go by the name micromanagers, do you know one?

Resilient leaders don’t do the same thing over and over, expecting different results

They find themselves solving the same problem more than once. For example, at the beginning of the year, saying they say for the tenth time, this is the year I am going to start exercising. Or, “why do I always end up like this?” They get upset and angry with themselves because they think, “I did it again,” and are frustrated for their lack of discipline. They know what they need to do; they just don’t have the discipline or the motivation to do things differently.  

Resilient leaders don’t expect immediate results.

The world today is influencing us to receive instant gratification. They want immediate results, immediate satisfaction. Think Amazon Prime; two-day delivery is the norm now. Anything more than that is unacceptable. They have the attitude, time is money, so they don’t want to risk losing a single second; patience isn’t one of the strengths. They have a problem sticking to their long-term goals because it takes too long and effort to reach them. Progress isn’t always evident, and to them, improvement always should be very obvious. They tend to discount the small steps, the small wins that have a compound effect on the results. 

Luis Velasquez MBA, PhD

Luis is a leadership coach, employee engagement expert, and management trainer. Formerly a University professor and research scientist, Luis holds a dual Ph.D. from Michigan State University; and an MBA in Organizational Leadership.

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